Why you should take yourself on a date

February doesn’t need to be a month just for romantic love. And for years, I have been taking February with that in mind. Not only because it’s my month, and Valentine’s Day is actually my day, but I much prefer to take the love of this month and give it to myself first. What better month is there to remind you to love yourself first?

I decided a long time ago that February is a month for self-love. Isn’t it lovely to take all the love, all the sweet things going around during this month, and focus it on yourself? Do you love that thing you saw on the storefront and are dying for your other half to surprise you on February 14th with it? Surprise yourself with it! Are you loving all the pink and red decorations but feel like a waste? If they make you happy, get them! Decorate your bullet journal with red and pink, watch all the romantic movies in your queue, and buy that Lush product that would make you feel like a million-dollar bill.

Whatever your heart is craving this month, do it. For yourself. Don’t wait for another person to magically discover it and surprise you. I have been writing this for years: be your own Valentine!

As much as I love making plans with A, even now, with my perfect husband and two kids (1 on the way), I crave a good self-date, and every time I take it, I feel refreshed and a new woman, mom, and wife. Yes, because you too need time for yourself alone, doing things you love.

Because you know that thing that your other half runs in the other direction when you mention it? (IKEA, cof cof) Go do it by yourself, on a date! Take yourself on a date. Go do something luxurious for you. Take yourself on a dinner out, a lunch out, a stroll through the shopping center, a walk in a beautiful place you love but your other half prefers to stay gaming inside, go on a spa day, go to the hairdresser just for yourself, browse your favorite bookstore…

Whatever you have been craving, take this month of February and give it to yourself. Because the first person you need to fall in love with and take care of is you.

E.g.: I didn’t want to leave without leaving here my usual idea of a self-date: I usually choose IKEA for it, I go with time, take my time getting all the inspo I love from the store, stop for a break with my favorite cinnamon roll and a cup of tea, continue for the downstairs section and then take myself out for dinner. This fills my cup because I’m in the process of decorating our home and the inspo is needed and refreshes me! It may seem doll, but I love it. Find what makes you feel this way too!